I’m usually a happy person, but sometimes I feel upset and inclined to self-harm. However, since I’m not diagnosed with Bi-Polar depression I don’t feel like I deserve help. Is it just a phase? How can I get over this if I’m not validated?

Some moodiness is normal throughout the teen years, but especially in the early teens. It’s possible that this is a phase and you will feel better in time. However, if you are having thoughts of self-harm or are harming yourself now, you do need get help right away. You don’t need to be diagnosed with a mental illness to be able to talk to someone who can help you. We suggest that you start by talking with a parent, health care provider, school counselor, if you have one, or other trusted adult. It’s important for your parents to know so they can help make sure you  get the support you need. Your health care provider can also refer you to a counselor or therapist.