Is it common for a teenager to talk about their first sexual experience with their parents/guardians? Assumedly in a good relationship with parents/guardians? Thank you!

Thanks for your question. Lots of people wonder whether they should talk to their parent/guardian about sex. If you have a good relationship with your parent/guardian, and feel safe talking to them that’s great! Parents/guardians can have good advice that can help you have a healthier sex life.

Sometimes teens may feel awkward talking about sex with their parents/guardians and that’s normal. Here are some tips to consider when starting a conversation:

  • Consider talking about more general things first. For instance, maybe mention that some of your friends are thinking about sex, or started having sex.
  • Think about specific questions before hand.
  • Some people feel more comfortable using a TV show or something they found online to start the conversation. You can show it to your parent/guardian and use that to help start the conversation.
  • Some people ask their health care providers to help them start the conversation about sexual health with their parent/guardian.

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your parents/guardians about sex, consider talking to other trusted adults in your life. This can include an adult relative (such as an uncle or aunt), a coach, or your health care provider.