My bf and I broke up recently. He has a new girlfriend now but I am still so in love with him. I told him how I felt and he said he still loved me but he wanted to be with his girlfriend and since has been asking me for relationship advice. I feel so heartbroken and disrespected but I don’t know what to do.

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Break ups are tough, and feeling upset for a period of time afterwards is normal. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do—other than just giving it time—to help feel better. Check out our guide on “How to Deal with a Breakup” for a few ideas.

In your specific situation, being asked to give advice to your ex might be making you feel worse. You may want to get some space from your ex. Try having a conversation with him by saying something like “I don’t feel comfortable talking about your other relationships” or “I think spending some time apart now will help us to continue being friends later.” It can also help to confide in a friend, family member, or counselor when dealing with tough situations. They can offer advice and show you how you are special.