The answer to this question depends on how you define “virginity.” There’s no medical definition of “virginity.” You may decide you’re a virgin until you’ve had penis-in-vagina sex, until you’ve had oral sex, or until you’ve been sexually intimate in any way with your partner. Your partner may be someone of the same gender or someone of a different gender. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin or not being a virgin, and it’s up to you to decide what “losing your virginity” means to you. What’s more important than knowing whether or not you are a “virgin” is making sure you feel safe with your partner and you don’t ever feel pressured into having sex. Becoming sexually active is not only a big decision, it should always be YOUR choice and no one else’s.
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