How old should a girl be to start dating?

couple in snowSome people start dating at 16, 17, 18 or later. The age that you should start dating depends on what your parents think which is likely based on religious and cultural beliefs along with their own values. The definition of dating has changed since your parents were young so it’s important to explain what you mean by “dating.” Do you want to text or talk to someone you like?, or are you interested in doing an activity with someone such as going to the movies, or hanging out?  Usually before a parent or guardian give permission for their child to date, they will likely want to have a conversation about certain rules that you will need to follow, for example:  a curfew (when you will have to be home), whether or not they will allow you to be a passenger in a car with a teenage driver, how much time you can spend with the person, and how much time you can spend on your phone, texting or calling, etc.

Choose a time to talk to your parent(s) or guardian when you and your family are not rushing out the door or stressed out.  Tell them that you want to know what their dating policy is so you will know what to expect.


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