The decision to have sex is very personal and should be based off of number of factors. Sex isn’t wrong and when the timing is right, everyone deserves to have great sex. However, it can be challenging to set expectations on when a person is going to have sex because one’s feelings can change quickly. Here are just a few helpful things to consider before a person decides to have sex:
- Is the decision completely your own or do you feel pressured to have sex?
- Is your decision to have sex based on the right reasons?
- Have you talked to your partner about what would happen if either of you got a sexually transmitted infection (STI) or you get pregnant?
- Do you really feel ready and completely comfortable with yourself and your partner to have sex?
If you answered “No” to any of these questions, it might be worth waiting until you’re completely ready. Sex is a big commitment, not only physically, but emotionally as well. When you feel ready to have sex, make sure to schedule an appointment with your health care provider (HCP) to discuss safe sex practices and think about which contraception is best for you! Your HCP can also help answer any questions you may have about sex before you have sex for the first time.
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